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Conversation Starters to Use With Your Child’s Teachers

In this resource from Understood.org, you can find samples of how to have effective conversations with your children’s teachers about topics like math, reading, trouble focusing, and other behavioral concerns. Below is an example from the Understood website of a conversation between a grandmother and a teacher about focusing.

Examples: Asking to meet or talk: "Hi. I'm Jordan's grandmother, Claudia. Jordan lives with me, and I'm worried he is having trouble with focus. I'd like to set up a time to talk about it." Starting the conversation: "Thanks for talking with me. I'm concerned about Jordan's focus. It can take him hours to finish his homework because he sits there doodling or just staring off into space. He doesn't seem unhappy, though. Is this something I should be worried about? Are you seeing similar things at school?" Sharing information: "I'm not sure if this is part of it, but Jordan often drops what he's doing and switches to something else. He'll put the leash on the dog to take her out, and then suddenly disappear. I'll find him texting while the dog is waiting at the door. I used to think he was being lazy. But maybe he has a hard time focusing on chores, too." Getting information: "I haven't heard from teachers that Jordan doesn't pay attention, but I'm wondering how he is in class. Does he usually focus when you're teaching? Does he ever drift off the way he does at home?" Following up on answers: "He's easily distracted at home, too. Can you give me an example of what distracts Jordan in class? What does he do?" Asking about help: "What can help Jordan with focus? Are there things you do in class when he stops focusing? Can you suggest strategies we can try at home?" Finishing the conversation: "Thanks so much for your help. I have a better idea of what's happening with Jordan and what to look for. Can we check in after I've had time to think about this to talk about what happens next?"
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